just got back from a meal with frens. wats the latest news? someone got engaged 2 weeks ago to be married end of the year. what's with you guys? especially the ones who keep on saying their wedding dates are still far from sight. before one knows it, they wed and have babies earlier than i do..

and let me tell you about some of our asian chaps. no matter how cosmopolitan, well travelled or satc savvy they claim to be, they are mummies' boys. and when they get to the big 3-0 they panick..although they do not want to admit that. the only thing they can readily admit is that, yes, they had been pressured to settle down..

a few of my girlfriends used to tell me that asian men tend to date the wilder ones but eventually when it's time to settle down..they easily ditch the wild ones for the family approved sweet girl next door. i din really believe this until a year ago we interogated a friend who was about to get married..we just had to ask him what about his dating history of oriental girls. he especially had a thing for japanese girls. then it just came out from the horse's mouth that these girls were not the marriageble kind. of coz we found this incredulous and made a big fuss out of that statement. we just thought he was finding the easier way out when it comes to settling down.

and so the story of today, was another friend..who a year ago kept ranting and raving about an ex-girlfriend. the one who gave him nightmares when she left him. how he was willing to go through the struggles, to put up with family opposition to marry her eventhough she was not 'right' according to his family. she was of another race and religion, dresses skimpily, eats with chopsticks and drove him mad a lot of times.

today he is engaged and to be married to another girl, perfectly matched for him. just like the other friend is married to the perfectly matched wife..i used to wonder how it got to be but now i am no longer as surprised..phy has a few guy friends who are still very 'unsettled'. i just had to tell him..just watch when they near 30 and still very much unsettled..they may just run to their mummies to help them find a wife. like a lot of good asian boys. really. eventhough they may not want to admit it. eventhough it initially dint look that way, and it seemed they are being 'pressurrised' to settle down.

but then it aint that bad. seeing that my friend is pretty happily married and that the wife is not as conservative as we thought she was going to be. in fact she is a lady about town who constantly surprises us.

though the one i met today..he refused to tell me who she is..she's one of my 'sisters in learning and sisters at heart'..not to difficult for me to find out so he didnt need to make it seem such a secret :P

*movie to watch: monsoon wedding