i am waiting for him to fetch me..in the meantime i did a whole lot of primetime catching up from some downloaded episodes..errr..if you consider watching reality shows primtime activity..

but the show in question is the apprentice,(at the other end of the spectrum i also love A top model) was hooked to it but due to work and the need to catch up on sleep, had missed a few episodes of it.

one of the reasons i love it...is the boardroom saga at the end of each episode. d.trump has perfected the art of firing personnel , or rather the art of providing criticism. notice how he brings to a close the arguments to fire someone..there is no mercy involved but at the same time he does not go all out doing any character slaying. what he often does is focus on the flaws of the actions rather than go about character bashing...or going into destructive criticism..which is the form that a lot of the pakciks at kedai kopis get into.

there is also something else..close relative of criticism..something which i call tactlessness of comments..how do we define this? encounters of this form sometimes involve acquaintances..and i wonder..how do we respond to this? just grin to show we dont take the comments or ourselves seriously , bear it and later bitch about it to our partners privately...how do we decide to accept it as harmless commenting or sheer tactless behavior? like criticising the size of one's engagement ring?

"errmm, no..he needs the money for something else.." "so which is more important, your or his XXXX, what is the point? he shuld have gotten you a bigger one"

...is there a need for me to defend it at all?? is that critical appraisal or is that a sign of bad upbringing? i am not sure..the consolation however is that once one get into such acts, they are but a reflection of the personalities of the persons involved.

on the same subject..i am on this book by the same author of On Love, and an excerpt from it:

"we seem afflicted by the opposite tendency: to listen to everyone, to be upset by every unkind word and sarcastic observation. we fail to ask ourselves the cardinal and most consoling questions: on what basis has this dark censure been made? we treat with equal seriousness the objections of the critic who had thought rigourously and honestly and those of the critic who has acted on misanthropy and envy."

learn from that? or as like what my fh probably will say on this, everytime i bring up the subject.."to hell with what people think.." hahahahah... and if all else fails to make us feel any better, learn from the show the apprentice again..everytime at the very end, the dejected contestants driven out in the yellow cabs would have had gathered themselves good, and following what we know of a lot of a.mericans, learn to develop big ass sense of confidence in ourselves. errrm... i guess that's also in survival 101.