today i received an sms from an ex-classmate asking me if i had heard about another old friend, R,and i said NO?

about two months ago, my friend, R met with a road accident as she was driving in the states. she was declared braindead,and went into coma for two days before the doctors decided to pull the plug.

what's the most horrible thing about it? she was on my msn list but we hardly chatted. it is regretabble..we were close once long long time ago, but then we went to separate schools, she went to the states to study..we didnt keep in contact. along the way..in recent years..i got to know her complicated lovelife via a bungled email hijacker..which was a mean thing for someone to do.. and by the time we did get on each other's msn list, i guess we both felt that the gap was too wide for us to bridge, not knowing that now the gap has become an unrecoverable gulf. it is regretable, and it is terrible that i feel this way only after she is gone..if i still have her name pop up together with the greenman in the right hand corner of my screen, i may have continued to ignore it. the only excuse i have is..and it is an even worse one..is that i had changed my msn email id..and had not got her in the list thereafter.. :(

another friend of mine said relationships and friendships are transient. we get to outgrow some. i guess there is some truth to that. but even if they got to that state..i will still remember the friends and characters who have filled up my life..

then of coz, the remembering is the easy part, saying even just a 'hi' is the part where we all can do better.