have you heard of the sandwich generation? it was a friend of mine who actually told me of the term. for anyone who had watched the last season of satc, in the second last or was it the last episode when miranda was taking care of the baby and then having to chase after steeve's sick mum. that's what it all means to be in that generation isnt it. it is actually defined as "those sandwiched between aging parents who need care and/or help and their own children."

to think of it, it has always been the case hasnt it, the sandwich thing.but i just think the elder folks of the future may just have their own set of expectations, different from the grandmas and grandpas we had. but more so of coz, the us now, have different expectations of life as compared to our parents. between the two, it's probably us who need to reassess how we go from here.

we had dinner together just now. and we talked about a few things..and i was being the pessimist again. i told him when we get married it appears that "things would not get easier" we are pretty gelled together and we know each other almost like the back of our hands but looking into the future, i see several challenges ahead.

i have yet to have my own kids. that is much further in the future. but for now, i have already start to worry increasingly for my parents. my parents are not independent in many ways. and some time i find myself involved in their problems and coming to their rescue.the role revearsal reminds me that we are getting old. all of us. that itself, is frustrating in many ways. and now i am going to be entering into another family, with its own set of challenging situations that i am already fully aware of..and in the future, i foresee will have to be in my sphere of concerns.

that's how life is, isn't it. when you realised you are all 'grown up' and actually going into the family way.

well, that big picture will always be there..for now i have to make do with making myself happy with the more frivolous details of life...

typing this while having my newly purchased kose whitening (more of de-gunking) black mask, on